(Please keep in mind that these are purely my thoughts and opinions on the subject, and this is in no way meant to be a personal attack to anyone)
“I am tired . Tired of seeing people be judgemental about everyone. This constant badgering that I witness all the time must stop.”
I realise we talk about women empowerment, about how women must come up in all fields of work and life. Then why is it us women only that judge other women with so much vengeance?
It has been 6 years of me going into a path that wasn’t conventional and “good girl” as such. The rebel in me still went ahead and did what I felt was right for me. I have countless instances of judgements being expressed to me as well as people around me.
I have a very close friend who went on a fantastic weight loss journey, and I have seen her work so hard for this. She went on a very healthy diet and worked out twice a day. And she succeeded in losing all the excess weight and looking and feeling as healthy as ever. I still managed to hear some people judge her for being too “Conceited” because she apparently “Only Cared About Getting Thin”.
In another instance, I had decided in the beginning of 2015 that I will start taking better care of my body, skin and hair and dress up more often. Since my rehearsals mainly involve me being in track pants and tees and sports bras, I had decided to bring about that change. I was very happy on the days that I would dress up, I would feel much more confident and I definitely felt good. Someone I knew very well who had seen the change in me then told me that she thought I was dressing up because I wanted to “Seek Attention”.
I know someone who is an actress. She is doing very well in her life. She clicks pictures of herself and puts it on Social media. A friend of mine thought she was too “Self Obsessed”
You know what, caring only about getting thin is YOUR opinion of her, her wanting to “seek attention” or be “Self obsessed” is YOUR opinion of them. They are the ones who instead of focussing on you , are getting their work done and progressing slowly.
I must tell you that I am that way very fortunate to have had mainly supportive friends and family in my life. And they are the ones that stayed along.
The reason I decided to write this blog is because I suddenly realised how judgements do affect all of us. Whether we are the most sensitive people, or more rebellious for that matter. The ones who are stronger, get affected for a moment but let that pass.
Frankly, its not even the strangers’ judgements that matter as much as someone within our social circle.
For some strange reason, we think that judging others and putting them down will bring us up. Sorry to burst your bubble, but you are simply wasting your time thinking about others’ lives instead of focussing inward into your own.
This is not meant to be one of the happy blog posts. I am writing this because I have been a witness of judgement being passed on me all the time. I am honestly not affected by it anymore since I have developed some special kind of immunity where whenever I get judged, I do the same thing even more. But I had to fight battles and train my mind to do the same.
What if this whole process of training the mind never came in the first place? How about we just don’t pass judgements at other people and put them down? Wouldn’t the world just be a nicer place then? Wouldn’t all of us make much more progress and be uninhibited in whatever we did?
Think about it. If everyone decides to stop passing judgements as others, everyone gets to live a life without dodging these negative instances. Forget about strangers here, because strangers might always have some opinion about you. I am talking about people you know, people who are working to become successful, to live happy , fulfilled lives.
Lets make it a nicer world for everyone to live in. That might be a nicer way to live then, wouldn’t it?